February 16, 2004

Marriage Equality Now

After careful consideration and reflecting on several recent court developments -- most notably the San Francisco Solution -- I demand that New York City (and eventually, New York State) recognize marriages between members of the same sex. It goes against everything we stand for as a city, state and nation to discriminate. There is no reasonable explanation to continue marriage inequality. Gov. Pataki signed SONDA shortly after it was finally passed by the State Senate (after 31 years nonetheless!); New York City made similar inroads for Gay equality in 1986, albeit several years later than most major, liberal cities. Marriage is the last bastion for bigots. Every thing else is open to us (well, only if you ignore the plight of our transexual siblings who still face discrimination -- sometimes within Queer communities).

I've been thinking about marrying my partner almost from the very moment I first met him three years and five months ago today. No, it wasn't love at first sight. But I knew almost instantly that I wanted to be around him and I have grown to love him deeply. His fate is my fate and vice versa. Whether or not we can legally get married, we have made and will continue to make a commitment to each other. I won't lie and say I won't be hurt if a federal amendment makes marriage discrimination the law of the land. I will be. But I know no amount of paper and hate and spinelessness will change my mind: marriage is a civil right that should be available to all citizens in this city, state and nation.

I only wish we had been in San Fran this weekend. Seeing all the love and commitment and joyous celebrations there made me envious. It may be moot after a trip to Boson later this year.

* One of the questions from the this week's NYC Bloggers / RNN E News rundown.

Posted by ronn at February 16, 2004 08:59 PM